Mrs. Gunkel, the Queen of Sweden

 







The Queen of Sweden


 Family relic: .41 Colts, patented 1884 


My great-grandmother Bertie Olson was a Swede, and all of us Swedes are descended from the Queen of Sweden. I know this for a fact because Mildred Gunkel (née Jenkins), a scion of the line in Coyle Oklahoma (pop. 337), stood on her very own front porch one August afternoon with the dust settled on the blackjack leaves and told me so. 

I was compelled to believe this because, as she informed me, she had a chest dating from about the time of Leviticus which had been handed down from son to son, generation to generation, until it got to her. She was just keeping it until her grandson grew into it. “It’s small,” she said, “about half the size of a cigar box. A little red box, the red chippin off and everything. It's really not very pretty. One leg comes off. But there's not a nail in it." I could take her word for for all of this because the chest was upstairs in the attic at the moment she was speaking, and she told me so herself. 

Perhaps its knowing that the purple is already there pumping in my bloodline that makes me so comfortable with the Farmer Principle of Family History which I am just about to spring upon an unsuspecting world. When a man knows he’s descended from the Queen, he doesn’t have to fret about small potatoes like dukes and earls. 

The Plowman Principle vs. Coming Over with the Conqueror


When Adam delv'd and Eve span

Who was then the gentleman?


A revolutionary rhyme. John Ball used it in his speech to the rebels in the Peasants’ Revolt of 1381 and was later hanged for rousing the rabble. No doubt the couplet's leveling doctrine would get a person hanged in many a genealogical society too, and certainly it would rile many of those who get themselves kinned-up with dukes and kings on genealogical sites, prominently displaying coats of arms. Some of these may have legitimacy, I wouldn’t know, but coats of arms are also for sale and have been for decades--indeed, since “time immemorial.” It’s one of the oldest lines in the buncombe business.

Though professional genealogy has serious functions in forensic medicine and the understanding of inherited disease, at the hobby level it lends itself to the kind of wishful phantasy evident in its origins. Historically, the term “genealogy” often overlapped with “heraldry,” in which the ancestry of nobility was reflected in coats of arms. Modern scholars consider many noble ancestries to be fictions, but the genealogical hobbyist arrives quickly at “the nobility” for the very good reason that most records before the mid-1500s are of the aristocracy. This is true even in England, which as an island un-invaded since the twelfth century has the greatest volume of records from the Middle Ages. Even so, where names from before 1500 have survived, they are of the tiny minority that belonged to a country’s hereditary elite. This fact explains why most people who trace a line back to much before 1600 end up with a coat of arms. The other holders of the name having disappeared, it’d be hard to do otherwise.

As a study, genealogy began with kings hiring scholars to prove that they descended from gods so as to demonstrate the legitimacy of their rule. The Anglo-Saxon Chronicle of the ninth century traced the ancestry of several English kings to the god Woden. “Their leaders were two brothers, Hengest and Horsa; who were the sons of Wihtgils; Wihtgils was the son of Witta, Witta of Wecta, Wecta of Woden. From this Woden arose all our royal kindred, and that of the Southumbrians also.” (We’ll run across some of these fairy-tale sets of brothers in the chapters that follow.) Several hundred years later, the Tudor kings from Henry VI to Elizabeth would justify their bloody reigns by having their origins traced back to Brutus of Troy, a legendary descendant of the Trojan hero Aeneas, himself the son of a goddess. 

The fantasy of royal descent is a powerful honey for the genealogical fly. Even Alexander Taylor Cooper, a full colonel in the U. S. Army Medical Corps and a very important guide to the Pound family history, fell into this trap. He traced the Taylor line (his mother’s family) back to “a Norman Baron, Taillefer, who accompanied William the Conqueror, in his invasion of England, and fell at the Battle of Hastings, on Saturday, October 14, 1066.” Burke’s Peerage was the source of this tasty factoid. Burke, with its many subsequent editions since the first in 1826, is now online, increasing the ease with which we can all locate our Norman roots. Alex Taylor could have learned more from Shakespeare than Burke. In the Taming of the Shrew the clown Sly, a tinker by trade, brags of his lineage:


 . . . the Slys are no rogues. Look in the 

Chronicles; we came in with Richard Conqueror.


The “Chronicles” is The Anglo-Saxon Chronicle mentioned above. Sly confuses William the Conqueror with another hero, Richard Lion Heart, illustrating how honey goes to the head even of a man of common sense. 

The Good Book supplies some guidelines. The author of the First Epistle to Timothy in the Greek scriptures enjoins us, “Neither give heed to fables and endless genealogies.” Deuteronomy turns this around and commands, “Remember the days of old / Consider the years of many generations.” Do these two injunctions contradict each other? I prefer to see them as complementary, as though the command is to remember the days of old but to pay no heed to genealogies that tell “stretchers.”

I don’t mean to preach. If there is a morality of genealogy, I wouldn’t know what it is. Indeed, I don’t think of myself as a genealogist at all but rather a family historian, and I do know the morality of history, or rather of the historian: he is obligated to tell the truth according to his lights. Genealogy is necessary to history, as a skeleton is to the body, but it is history--the telling of a story-- that puts the flesh on the bones.


Talking to the Queen of Sweden

It is little short of wonderful how in the United States, which originates in a revolt against royalty, equivalent to cutting off the king’s head, the interest in aristocratic antecedents continues to thrive. This in spite of Mark Twain’s having burlesqued it in Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, when Huck and Jim’s quiet life on the raft going down the Mississippi is invaded by the “king” and the “duke,” two rascals of the worse stripe who can only be consoled if Huck and Jim call them by their pretended titles. In spite of William Faulkner’s having had John Sartoris lay it out for us: 


In the nineteenth century, chortling over genealogy anywhere is poppycock. But particularly so in America, where only what a man takes and keeps has any significance, and where all of us have a common ancestry and the only house from which we can claim descent with any assurance is the Old Bailey.


Even after Stephen Vincent Benet in John Brown's Body assured us that in North America “Thames and all the rivers of the kings / Ran into Mississippi and were drowned.”

To be sure, in my story there are a few detours in which we stop to see how the gentry live. We wouldn’t be democratic if we didn’t. We’ve already bowed to the Queen of Sweden. In Chapter 3 we’ll salute the Lacys in early Virginia, but that’s a small collateral line, hardly more than a hiccup,  and I hurry past it because the Lacys are well able to take care of their own. And I fully acknowledge one of the Williamses of North Carolina, a line of educated professionals, some of them having risen to the rank of mayors and such like potentates of regional history, but my tribe is not related to the powerful Williams clans of the planter elite like Joseph Williams, called the Duke of Surry.

In my researches in Granville County North Carolina I wasted a lot of time eliminating Joseph Williams, the Duke of Surry County. I wish I had concentrated instead on a figure in my father’s maternal tree who had lived in the Duke’s county: David Stidham, born there about 1785, who died in Wise County, Virginia, one of the murder capitals of North America. Fittingly, his grandson William Floyd Stidham, who moved to Lincoln County Oklahoma in 1912, is said to have left eastern Kentucky (close to Wise County VA) with the sheriff not far behind him. Something about a dogfight that left seven men dead. This fact I also know to be true because a second cousin of mine in Chandler Oklahoma has the .41 Colts revolver Great Grandpa Stidham carried with him in Kentucky, and my brother in Tulsa has the .22 “Crackshot” his wife used to keep the squirrels out of her pecan trees and inside her stew pot. We are still trying to locate the old man’s double-barreled twelve-gauge shotgun, but I have no doubt that it too will turn out to be an authentic relic. No doubt it’s just a question of taste, but I can’t help preferring shotguns and dogfights to ruffles and lace.

Surely it’s the knowledge of my descent from the Queen of Sweden that makes me comfortable with the Plowman Principle of family history. As I said, when you know you’re descended from the Royal House of Bernadotte, you don’t have to fret about small potatoes like dukes and earls.The rest of my story, the main plot line, is farmers all the way, from the first John Pound raising tobacco in Virginia to my grandfather raising cotton in central Oklahoma. Because my own father was a farmer (at least until about his 30th year), I have taken John’s occupation to heart, and upon it I’ve constructed what I call “The Plowman Principle” of family history. It states that anyone not a farmer is probably not part of the main plot of my story. This is an eminently plausible theory, considering that down to the end of the nineteenth century 90% of Americans were engaged in agriculture. The cotton economy in central Oklahoma ended with the second world war, and in the book called North of Deep Fork, where I tell the Oklahoma phase of the family story, that’s where I stop, 1939 (North of Deep Fork: An Oklahoma Farm Family in Hard Times, 1997; rev. ed. 2011). The book you hold in your hand is its long-delayed prequel.

If much of the genealogical enterprise seems fueled by a craving to attach the researcher to the great and famous, I make no protest against this state of affairs but merely state that such an enterprise does not interest me. “Let us now praise famous men,” says Ecclesiasticus--a beautiful phrase not in the Protestant Bible--but they have been praised so many times, why should I waste my breathe in “vain repetition”? What I want, rather, is to let the forgotten be remembered, if only for a moment, and to find a way to let the forgotten speak. Rather than pull myself up to the height of the great and noble at the risk of offending truth, I am content to wait the universal leveling. In the end, the aristocrats will come down to my level. When the farmer dies, he sleeps with kings and counselors. 

It may be a piece of folly to try to make a book out of the lives of the poor--unless, of course, one is a novelist. At the end of his life, Albert Camus was working on a novel that would include a history of his family, the little that he could know of it growing up in a ghetto in Algiers with no father and a mother and grandmother who were illiterate. In his notes to the work-in-progress he speaks of his father, whom he never knew (he died on the battlefields of World War I before his son was born): “The truly poor speak little of the past--they are too obsessively concerned with surviving in the present.” Then he states his motivation as a writer: “What I must do is tear this impoverished family from the destiny of the poor, which is to disappear from history without a trace.” 

In the American context, Abraham Lincoln had made the point a century earlier. “It is a great piece of folly to attempt to make anything out of my early life,” he advised someone who wanted to publish a campaign biography in 1860. “It can all be condensed into a single sentence, and that sentence you will find in Gray’s ‘Elegy’: ‘The short and simple annals of the poor.’” Lincoln was a complicated man, and it may be that he was being less than Honest Abe here--but it may also well be that he didn’t know that Thomas Lincoln was not his father. Still, his identifying his history with that of the poor who figure in Thomas Gray’s “Elegy in a Country Churchyard,” seems like a good precedent to invoke here. 

It would be vanity for me to say that all my paternal ancestors were poor, but a great number surely were. In pursuing them I have visited many country churchyards, some times finding only smooth fragments of sandstone or a featureless fieldstone, and sometimes not even that.


The Treasure in the Field: Ordinary People

Part of the problem of making a book from the lives of farmers, many of them illiterate or almost so, is that the lack of written documents makes it hard to produce a story, and without narrative to connect events we are reduced to dusty lists. One device I have used is the journey--that is, the story of my search as I traveled from place looking for ancestors. I have written travelogues for the counties I was actually able to drive to and linger in the courthouse records, but a third of what follows below was written in a foreign country using books and databases, so the journey has some long stretches in it in which nothing much happens. 

Another device, which some family histories have used successfully, is the mystery. An unsolved murder, or a missing fortune, is ideal. I have located a murder, but the perpetrator was known from the outset, and the only mystery is how he put up with his over-bearing wife as long as he did before reaching for the hatchet. As for the lost fortune, I am still waiting to hear of it. 

The best I can produce on the side of mystery is the three graves that have haunted me for two decades now. The first, that of the Revolutionary War soldier William Pound, I believe that my sister and I have recently located. The second, that of Samuel Pounds, born in Chatham County North Carolina in 1778 and said to have died at the age of 100 years and six months in Hancock County Illinois, remains a mystery. We’ve got the grave but we can’t be sure who’s in it. The large stone stands engraved “Samuel Pounds,” but it’s in the wrong county and bears the wrong dates. The third grave, that of the Civil War veteran Thomas Pounds, may be less a mystery than a blank, but it’s a blank with a lot of energy in it. A phone call which I received from a distant Kansas cousin in 1988 inquiring about him was what got me started doing family history. 

The fate of the bones of Thomas Pounds is exemplary and makes him our Representative Man: he disappeared from history without a trace. People like him are the center of the story that I mean to tell in what follows: the story of the westward movement across North America as exemplified in a family which have no distinction but their ordinariness.


Preview of the Journey

The trek begins in Richmond County in Virginia’s northern neck about 1663. Then begin a series of moves in search of Eden, the earthly Paradise promised by land agents. By 1770 it moves to the backlands of the south, first to the Virginia side of the border in Pittsylvania, Halifax, and Mecklenburg Counties, and then to the North Carolina side in Granville County. In 1803 we go south a couple counties to Chatham and there the family stays for several decades (and some descendants to the present). The younger members, however, are heading west after 1800, soon turning up in the Ohio country (present day Ohio, Indiana, Illinois). Some decades are spent in Guernsey County in southeastern Ohio and then we move across Indiana to western Illinois (Mason and Hancock Counties). Again decades pass before a branching movement takes place, on the one hand into north-central Kansas, on the other into Ray, Caldwell, and Dekalb Counties in west-central Missouri, where we are joined by some immigrant Swedes. The family in Missouri leave there to go to the final Eden of Oklahoma for the land run of 1891, but we don’t follow them there because, as I have said, that phase belongs to an earlier book.

A Note on Form and Documentation, and Some Words of Thanks

This book was started twenty years ago and, written in fits and starts, falls into three parts. Chapters 1-3, 6, and 8 were written in 1993 after road trips to collect records in the counties where my ancestors had lived and get a feel for the places. The fourth chapter (North Carolina), the fifth (Ohio), and the seventh (Kansas) were written in 2011 and 2012 sitting at my computer in Tokyo. The early chapters and the last use my journeys as narratives to hold the research together, or at least relieve the tedium of reciting records. The middle chapters have no such device at their disposal, and consequently lack the salt of local cuisine. I have patched the parts together as best I could but I have not hidden the seams. I want the book to reveal the process by which it was written. It want it to be a record of struggle. 

I must apologize to those rare individuals who will read the whole book consecutively, as they will find a degree of repetition that may be annoying. The book is designed for average readers, whom I imagine as genealogists and family historians, who rather than read consecutively use the Table of Contents and the Index to find the parts that interest them. I have left guideposts for them, even when it means a partial repetition of something said earlier.

I have tried to keep documentation to a minimum and at the same time to supply the essentials of what a reader might like to know about the book’s sources. At the end of each chapter is a short list of print documents, giving author, title, and date of publication. Throughout this book, all references to censuses, tax records, and legal transactions are based on documents I have copied or downloaded. As most of this sort of information is now findable through internet databases, it seemed to me a pointless pedantry to give the physical location, volume, and page number of the original documents. Most researchers do not drive to the county of origin to examine the old records in the courthouse. They sit at a computer and go to the databases. I have supplied the terms needed to run searches. 

  It has been said that genealogy is the science of correcting other genealogists’ errors. I have no doubt that the genealogical side of the present work leaves plenty for later researchers to correct. Another and more pleasant part of genealogy or family history is acknowledging debts incurred. The librarians, local historians, and researchers who over the years have helped me are too numerous to mention. 

My principal debts are to two people. First, to Colonel Alexander Taylor Cooper for his 1941 essay “The Pound Family,” in which he preserves the invaluable memories of his great-aunt Naomi Pounds Cooper. In a sense, much this book is no more than an extended footnote to his essay, which I have placed in the Appendix. Second, in the North Carolina and Ohio parts of this book especially, I have received immeasurable help from my sister Gerry Robideaux, who picked up the mantle of family historian when I dropped it in the late 1990s. Without her prodding, I would never have gone back to those early chapters to update them and write new ones to complete this work. I mention her research several times, but the debt is larger than my references convey.

Acknowledgement to other individuals who have given me substantial help is made in the individual chapters.

For readers with questions, corrections, or additions, I can be found online at www.ueno-wayne.org


Grandpa Was a Cotton Farmer


John Prine wrote a song called "Grandpa," and the lyrics will be familiar to many people who loved his Dylan-esque rewriting of Great Bob’s unsurpassed  contribution to American folk poetry and to Rock and Roll, but Prine wrote the same kind of imaginative lyrics adapted to the character of traditional county-and-western folk music. And he was a master of this kind of lyric, as in a song called “Grandpa”:


Grandpa was a carpenter, he built houses stores and banks

Chain-smoked Camel cigarettes and hammered nails in planks

He was level on the level and shaved even every door

And voted for Eisenhower 'cause Lincoln won the war


What I did, several years ago, was to take Prine’s lyric and adapt it to my own circumstances, to my own grandfather, a cotton farmer and hard worker who never owned an acre of land but rented all his life. Here is Prine’s song, “Grandpa Was a Carpenter”:


Oh, grandpa wore his suit to dinner nearly every day

No particular reason, he just dressed that way

Brown necktie with a matching vest and both his wingtip [C]shoes

He built a closet on [G]our back porch and put a [D]penny in a burned-out [G]fuse


[C]Grandpa was a carpenter, he built houses, stores and [G] banks

[C]Chain-smoked Camel [G]cigarettes and hammered nails in [D] planks

He would [G]level on the level, he shaved even every [C]d oor

And voted for Eisen[G] hower, 'cause [D ]Lincoln won the [G] war


[G]Well, he used to sing me "Blood on the Saddle" and rock me on his [C]knee

And let me listen to the [G]radio before we got TV [D]

Well, he'd [G] drive to church on Sunday and he'd take me with him [C] too

Stained glass in every [G]window, hearing [D] aids in every [G] pew


[G]Well, my Grandma was a teacher, she went to school in Bowling [C]Green

Traded in a [G]milking cow for a Singer sewing ma[D]chine

Well, she [G]called her husband "Mister," and she walked real tall in [C]pride

She used to buy me [G]comic books [D]after grandpa [G]died


The song is written in the key of G and sticks to the familiar chord sequence: C-G-D with no variation, only the country inflections of Prine’s haunting and magical voice. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Prine

“Grandpa was a Carpenter” by John Prine appears on his third studio album, ‘Sweet Revenge’ – 1973. It’s a story song, told in the first person. It’s a sweet memory of his grandfather and grandmother.


Grandpa wore his suit to dinner nearly every day

No particular reason, he just dressed that way

Brown necktie and a matching vest and both his wingtip shoes

He built a closet on our back porch and put a penny in a burned-out fuse


Here is my version of this song, borrowing key motifs from Prine’s song, but with variations fitting the words to my own Grandpa, Thomas Franklin Pounds--born Missouri 1891, died Chandler Oklahoma in 1966 at the golden old age of seventy-five.


GRANDPA WAS A FIDDLER

with a nod to John Prine


Grandpa was an orphan, 

mother died when he was ten,

The farmin families all around 

took the four youngest in.

Grandpa was the oldest, 

took the other three out to work;

That was the start of his farmin life 

in that Lincoln County dirt.


Grandpa was a fiddler 

but I never heard him play,

Played for country dances 

way out Merrick way;

Rolled his own Prince Albert smokes, 

a hard workin man and poor,

Voted for Eisenhower cause Lincoln won the war.


After they got married, 

Grandma made him quit that fiddle;

She didn't want him dancin jigs

with the children so little.

He'd take them all to Sunday school, 

whether near or far,

Taught the adult Bible class 

and led the singin in the choir.


Grandpa had a pair of mules, 

their names were Ben and Pete,

Finest mules in fifty miles, 

never had been beat.

When the county crew was buildin road 

         and couldn’t pull out a stump

Ben and Pete walked off with that thing 

       and  left the county boys standin dumb.


Grandma came out west by train, 

      all the way from ol' Kentuck;

They missed the train they were supposed to be on 

      When Uncle Henry got off and got drunk;

But that train derailed and fell in the river 

and most of those people died;

Just goes to show a little whiskey's okay 

as long as God is on your side.


Grandpa was a fiddler, but I never heard him play,

Played for country dances 

way out Merrick way;

Never owned an acre of land 

a hard workin man and poor,

Voted for Eisenhower cause Lincoln won the war.


The major change I made in the lyric was making the setting the abandoned but never forgotten town of Merrick in Lincoln County, where my Grandpa in his teens was a hanger on and fiddle player. In the photo below, Daddy stands by the sign:

 

 


Below is a photo of Grandpa and his youngest daughter, Sarah, born in Chandler in 1920, she married Ira Howser, a great sportsman, mallards, giant catfish, all were dead ducks that came under his calloused thumb on the hammer.
 
                                                    Grandpa and Youngest Daughter, Sarah

Last is a photo of Archie looking at an old pump. All that the curious reader is likely to discover about Merrick is written on the above sign: Merrick, 1893-1944, the first date coming one year after Grandpa was born. 


Archie Looking at Old Pump


The above photo was taken near the old house where his Grandmother Olson died in 1906, leaving behind her eight orphans, of whom Granddad Tom was the oldest and their caretaker.

Google and the internet never heard of Merrick, but in the Pounds family it reckons large as the place where as a young man Thomas Pounds played the fiddle for country dances, before he got married and his wife made him put the fiddle away--afraid the drinking that went with the fiddling would endanger her babies. The pertinent verse above reads:


After they got married, 

Grandma made him quit that fiddle;

She didn't want him dancin jigs

with the children so little.

He'd take them all to Sunday school, 

whether near or far,

Taught the adult Bible class 

and led the singin in the choir.


And that’s the whole story: Dear John, I sent your fiddle home. I’ve often thought it was one of the saddest events in my life that I never head Grandpa play his fiddle. I’ve seen him sit in his rocking chair for an hour at a time, however, and rehearse the rhythms with his long fingers tapping it out on the arm of the chair. In my childhood, that’s as close as we got to Grandpa’s fiddling, but in itself, in my mind, it remains unforgettable.  Here is my brother Archie Jr., originally named A.M. after our dad’s initials--Archie McClellan, on the subject of Archie Sr.:


2008 1018 土曜日 234330 

件名: RE: something Daddy said 

Dear Bro

 

I've always taken that comment to mean sales of cars/trucks/pickups.......he had a variety of ways to say that which all had the same meaning that he had treated every person fairly and could "look them in the eye".  Dad wasn't always consistent in things he said at different times but I think he was consistent in remarks about being honest and treating people right.  You'll remember that Uncle Earl, having worked with him as a business partner for 30 odd years and in the family forever said, "he's the most honest man I ever knew". 

Having said that, he also liked to "make homeruns" where he had an exceptional amount of profit . He was paid him on a profit sharing arrangement in Duncan working for Chief Oil trucks, and he made more money there than he'd ever made in his life.  It maybe that he only made home runs on business and corporations and not on individuals?  When he worked for us at Chief GMC, we were building a unique vacuum tank, pumps and equipment that couldn't be purchased anywhere else but through our manufacturer, Deco Vacs, owned by the same individuals who owned Chief so when the sale included the vacuum assembly and a new truck it was sold as a package and typically carried a very high markup.

  Anyway, I'll give it some thought and see what else I can scratch out.

 A.M.


         A dream and a letter from Chandler, 16 August 1994:


I dreamed that Daddy and I are riding a bus, when I look back and he's having a heart attack. He holds a sheaf of newspapers on top his head like a hat, his face stricken and apologetic. I explain to the driver in Japanese so we can get him to a doctor. Language no barrier—the old man's lumped and mottled body speaks eloquently enough. 

Up in the black of 6 a.m. and soon running south down Bennet Boulevard past the house where I was born. Pop cycle strawberry sky over black of eastern hill. I run past the houses of the dead: the Hickses—they're gone. Uncle Ira— he's gone. Mr. Neer, my eight-grade math teacher, he's gone. Ms. Hutton, 6th grade English teacher—she's gone. The white houses sit wide apart, silent as tombstones on the shadowy lawns under knowing trees. In the distance a rooster crows. Back at the house Muz is awake sitting in the dark living room. She sleeps only four to five hours a night to Daddy's nine plus naps, thus giving her a few hours respite from his otherwise unceasing demands. Others in this family have w/drawn from the world through religion and Alzheimer's. Daddy is withdrawing into sleep. Nine at night and two hours in the afternoon—that's eleven out of the twenty-four. "What else do I have to do?" he demands with an undertone of accusation. “All of my friends are in the graveyard.” We are responsible for what life has done to him. 

At a time like this, with the old grouch asleep, Muz and I could talk, but we know better than to try. She reads. After while I will sit down and read too. It's the best we can do. Till the father arises, and his monologue resumes.  Then we we will pay attention to him. First in a dream, then in a letter.


In the first flush of dawn, the purple flox and the red and white geraniums in the back yard radiate calm. Tall cana w/ muscular leaves scrolling upward to a point and a single bedraggled tiger-eared bloom speak of the difficulty of the August heat, and a hibiscus holds a large petal or two as prizes of past splendor. Like Daddy, perhaps, they remember when the past was peaches. The vegetable garden is exhausted too, tomato vines already pulled, though a few red globes still gleam from the straw. Cantaloupe vines and strawberry runners still green, covering the ground. 

Perhaps what we ate last night was the garden's last heave. Cold slices of cantaloupe and tomato shining like jewels. A few black prunes for digestion. And a nostalgic slice of golden crisp cornbread hot from the black cast iron skillet Muz uses instead of a pan. Her daily masterpiece still unexcelled. Slice it open, steam rising from the cut, spread butter, rejoin the two halves, wait a half minute for the butter to melt. Eat with a glass of cold milk. Tastebuds tango in paradise. 

After supper I went to visit my second mother, Hope Vassar. Widowed two years now, bent awry with the strokes of eighty years, but mind and spirit still intact. I find her outside looking at her flowers, a nurse holding her at one side to help her walk. She's a dismasted vessel, and we have to rig a mast before she can get under way. Inside I make us both her favorite drink, tall ice-filled glasses of Southern Comfort and Coke. And we talk: of her children and grandchildren and their families and careers, of my first wife and our life in Japan. Of what's in the news. Her speech is slow and halting—she has slipped down another notch since last summer. I make myself another drink, but her limit now is one. A dismasted yacht, stripped of her spars, but still the lines are there. A yacht, never a rowboat. Her mind intact. This sanity-saving ritual of whiskey and talk I will perform nightly for the five nights I am here in Chandler. I am drinking, yes, but it feels safe. Hope has too much dignity for me to get drunk—not that she would give a damn. And this is precisely how I started drinking at age sixteen: to get out of my parents’ house even while I lived there.


And now the letter, with the date in Japanese: 


2008 1018 土曜日 234330 

件名: RE: something Daddy said 

Dear Bro

 

I've always taken that comment to mean sales of cars/trucks/pickups.......he had a variety of ways to say that which all had the same meaning that he had treated every person fairly and could "look them in the eye".  Dad wasn't always consistent in things he said at different times but I think he was consistent in remarks about being honest and treating people right.  You'll remember that Uncle Earl, having worked with him as a business partner for 3? years and in the family forever said, "he's the most honest man I ever knew". 

Having said that he also liked to "make home runs" where he had an exceptional amount of profit (we paid him on a profit sharing arrangement) and he made more money at Chief than he'd ever made in his life.  It maybe that he only made home runs on business and corporations and not on individuals?  When he worked for us at Chief GMC we were building a unique vacuum tank, pumps and equipment that couldn't be purchased anywhere else but through our manufacturer (Deco Vacs) owned by the same individuals who owned Chief so when the sale (normally) included the vacuum assembly and a new truck it was sold as a package and typically carried a very high markup.

  Anyway, I'll give it some thought and see what else I can scratch out.

 A.M.


That was my brother Archie Jr. writing. Below is a gallery of photographs of Grandpa Pounds, in which we see first of all his Swedish blood--he was half Swede--appearing in his height (six foot and three inches)--his two younger brothers Hank and Jim were an inch or two taller. Daddy, himself a short man, five foot eight inches, liked to talked about how big his Grandpa was. Archie had worked in a dry goods story for a year and knew sizes. I don’t pretend to remember them now, but Grandpa wore a 35-inch sleeve and a collar to match his 230 pounds. He never wore a suit coat or a tie except in his wedding pictures, where they seem borrowed for the occasion. 

In the first picture below, he looks to be in his mid-fifties. We have a better report for Thomas Pounds’s grandfather, another Thomas Pounds:


Pounds, Thomas, 1840-1907

A local news report states the facts of the case, few as they were, as follows, including older and half-forgotten cemetery names from the area of Lincoln County northwest of Chandler :


"Grandpa Pounds, of Mt Vernon district, quietly passed away last Tuesday at the home of his son, after a short siege of illness. He was laid to rest Wednesday in the Kelly cemetery."  Carney Enterprise, 3 Jan 1908.

Thomas Pounds was born about 1840 in Coshocton County, Ohio, to Benjamin and Sarah Williams Pounds. Right before the start of the Civil War, he married Sarah Hyder Elliott in Ray County MO. This part of Missouri was generally pro-slavery, so in Sept. of 1862 he returned to his former home county in Illinois to enlist in the Illinois 108th Regiment. Since his first child was born about this time, he returned to Missouri and enlisted in the 87th Enrolled Militia. After the War, he and his family lived in DeKalb and Caldwell counties. 

His Civil War pension application shows that he was missing fingers of his right hand. Whether he was injured in the War or in his farming life is not known.

The last public record for Thomas Pounds is the 1900 census, which shows him in Maysville, De Kalb, MO. The last record of any kind from him is an October-1907 postcard written from Route 7, Chandler OK, to inquire about his Civil War pension. Nothing else was ever heard from him, and in the 1910 census his wife declared herself a widow.

After a 25-year search, we are happy at long last to locate his grave in nearby Pleasant Ridge Cemetery (formerly Kelly Cemetery), where he has many kinfolk and neighbors.  (Find-a-Grave). 


This memorial, headed Thomas Pounds, born 1840 Ohio, died 1907 in Oklahoma, giving the dates and unit names for his Civil War Service, was put up by my sister Geraldine Pounds Robideaux and myself. The fine print in the lower part of the stone reads: 


Plot purchased by his son George Pounds, January 1908. Memorial erected by his great great grandchildren, January 2017. In memory of one too long forgotten. Rest in Peace, Grandfather. 


It stands in Pleasant Ridge Cemetery, northwest of Chandler, between the communities of Oak Grove and Pleasant Ridge, where his crippled son George Pounds, lived, and their children--Tom Pounds and his family, their members named in the paragraph immediately above. It is dedicated to “One too long forgotten,” reflecting the ten years it too Gerry and myself to discover a tidbit in the Chandler about the death of George Pounds’s father Thomas.



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The phrase “Too long forgotten” reflects the ten years it took Gerry and myself to locate the burial place where Thomas was laid to rest--and then, to our surprise and great pleasure--there he was buried in Pleasant Ridge Cemetery, at home with a number of his relatives. The death notice, long undiscovered by us, appeared in the Chandler paper. It read: 


Grandapa Pounds of Mt Vernon District: quietly passed away last Tuesday at the home of his son, after a short siege of illness. He was laid to rest Wednesday in the Kelly cemetery.

The Stork visited the home of Mr. and Mrs. Will Deming week before last, leaving a big baby boy, and also the home of Mr. and Mrs Clint Goodberry last week, leaving another boy.


The Goodberry family, friends of the Poundses, are of no importance here, except for country ways, in which one always pays attention to one’s neighbors, even in so insignificant an essay as the present one. Gerry and I shared this death notice with the Goodberry family, who still reside in Carney, not far away, and so renewed an old acquaintance. 

What remains now in this reminiscence is a picture of our grandfather Thomas Franklin Pounds (https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/59736213/thomas-franklin-pounds), as we knew him in the flesh--most noticeably his half-Swedish flesh. 


Thomas Franklin Pounds and Daughter Sarah


Many other photos exist as family heirlooms, but the present essay has chosen to focus on Grandpa Pounds, To my humble mind, he was a great man, and in his fortitude stands above all the doctors and lawyers in town, for he was born an orphan (his mother died in 1906), and with his oldest Sister, Amanda E. Pounds Smith, 1896 to 1964 (https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/80211716/amanda_e-smith) he took care of the children too young to go out to a farm and do agricultural work. One of the happiest days of his hard working landless life, was the day his fourth brother, Keith Leland (Pounds) Foreman, drove down from his home in Kansas to visit him. My dad, Archie Pounds, remembers Tom’s happiness when, passing his brother by the mailbox on their way home, he turned to the rest of the family, stopping the car, and said, “I believe that’s my brother Keith.” Daddy told me the two men got out of their cars right their on the dirt ruts and hugged each other in tears, saying “This is my brother in whom I am well pleased” or words to that effect.

The Chandler paper, of course, reported this reunion of a family separated for half a century. 


Seven of the Eight Pounds Children, Chandler, 1960


Keith Foreman's birth name was Andrew Leland Pounds. The son of George B. and the Swedish immigrant Celia Pounds, he was one of four small children placed in adoption after their mother's death in 1906. There were four older children who were old enough to work, and they kept their original names. As much as possible, the scattered children stayed in touch with each other over the half century of their separation, and six of them (one had died) were reunited in Chandler OK, at the house of the oldest son, Thomas Pounds, in 1960.


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Keith Leland Foreman and wife, 1960


We will end this reminiscence with a final vignette. Grandpa Pounds loved to smoke, and he had a red Prince Albert cigarette-rolling machine with which he produced his smokes--at least until he got a job in town during WWII, and then he would buy Camels. As a boy, I would watch fascinated as he used the PA roller to produce his weeds--the long articulate fiddler’s fingers rolling the near perfect cigarettes, which he kept in --of course--a Prince Albert can. 

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By Thomas Pounds’s grandson

Wayne Pound, Tokyo, 2025